Question by Amir: Why have I lost focus in life due to being unable to find a woman?
Whenever I am with someone, they want space. I think I am too clingy or affectionate. I’m 40 now and I don’t think I have not tried as such or not enough. My heart feels tired now of trying. And I hate the though of living alone for the rest of my life. Due to multiple breakups, I”ve lost the focus on my work and life. I want it all back. How can I?
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Losing focus on work, feeling unmotivated (work, pursuing relationships), blaming yourself for failed relationships, and you are scared of not finding someone. It sounds like you may be developing depression. Finding a therapist may not be a bad idea. Even if you aren’t depressed, if you truly are too clingy or overly affectionate, counseling may help you find out why and/or help you learn to deal with it and to turn it off a bit so you don’t turn off the next woman you date.
how u r feeling is normal and maybe u r starting to fall into a bit of a depression over it and this would explain y u have lost focus…everyone gets down about exactly how u r feeling at some point…or most ppl do anyway…i think it might help you to focus on YOU right now..no matter WHAT…get up everyday, open the curtains let the sun in, open windows if its nice out…clean your house and i mean sweep the floors, do the dishes, do ur laundry, take the trash out, wipe the counters down, bathroom everything…TAKE A SHOWER put on fresh clothes keep ur hair and nails clean, eat breakfast, take walks or work out somehow at least 30 min a day….point is…its hard enough to take care of just u…and while u r busy doing that, days will turn into weeks to months to next thing you know u have been taking care of u and got to know u so well and found out what u want to do and how u want to spend ur time and u r happy with u and taking care of u and then it will be like magic…someone will come into ur life out of no where and it will be a healthy thing cause u aren’t looking to be taken care of u already got that covered, u won’t be clingy cause ur busy taking care of you…it works…u need to be happy with u b 4 anyone else can be happy with u