Question by mudpuppie_80: Why do you think that the divorce rate is so high?
My personal opinion is that people are selfish and act selfishly which isn’t leaving much room for a working marriage. Our culture seems to be all about “me” and how “I” feel and how can “I” make “myself” happy? Everyone blames there problems on someone or something besides themselves and the majority of us young people want respect and responsibility that we haven’t earned. What is your opinion on why marriages are failing so quickly and so often?
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My personal belief is that no one wants to work at making a marriage successful. It is just to easy to throw your hands in the air and say: I don’t need this crap!! Next stop: Divorce lawyer.
Being from the “old school” of thought I like to remember why we got married in the first place! I’ve been married 27 years, not always filled with bliss, but willing to work through our differences to find common ground once again.
First things first. Please excuse Denidove, whoever she is. She obviously has a some social issues. I agree with your opinion but it’s not the only reason why. A lot of us marry the wrong person or marry too soon in life. Some of us simply get tired of being with the same person. No particular reason why, we just do. If every married person who is bored with their spouse were to get a divorce, I think the divorce rate would be even higher than it is. Clinical studies say that most relationships lose their “romantic zip” if you will, at around the 3 to 4 year mark.The fact that everything in today’s society is geared toward sex doesn’t help either. I also think that today’s technology has a lot to do with it. We can communicate with each other so much more easily and in more ways, i.e. the internet and cell phones. There’s much more temptation out there today than in the past. I predict that the divorce rate will get even higher as time goes on. I hope I’m wrong.
Your point is good. Selfishness won’t get you anywhere in a marriage. I have another theory, though. I think the divorce rate is so high because too many people get married for the wrong reasons. Fear of being alone, needing someone to take care of or take care of you, wanting to get away from your parents, wanting someone to have sex with, etc (the lists goes on) are not valid reasons to marry. There’s only one reason, really. LOVE!
I agree, it is Disney’s and Helzberg fault.
Women have terrible “ideal husband fantasies” and no regard what-so-ever for trying to meet an “ideal wife fantasy”.
I actually had a discussion with my wife once where she expected me to go to work, come home and take care of the kids until bedtime and she wanted the weekend “off” as well since “dealing with the kids” is so stressful during the week she needs to get away and me taking care of the house on the weekend was my way to “contribute” to the household.
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No.
How about I go drinking every night and sleep in hung-over on the weekend and if you don’t like you can start paying 50% of the bills.
wet pussies and hard cocks and no brains
People have zero idea what mature love is all about.
Its not I or Me when you get married its Us
Having a child out of wedlock was shame in my day
But today it isnt or that they av different dads
So your marriage failing was an embarrassment
But today they celebrate it ?
The first sign of a problem thats it its all over .
Y!A is solely to blame
Because people don’t want to work at a relationship.
I truly think you answered you own question. This is the “me” generation. Morals and respect are all but gone. People dont take responsibility anymore. They would rather blame the other one and try and put themselves in a good light. My personal opinion is that people as a rule are farther and farther away from God and the morality that goes along with it.
OMG You’re totally right! People shouldn’t be allowed to have personal opinions or differences! They should be spineless, personality-less zombies that bow to anyone’s will!
and people should never discuss their own feelings about a matter! They should just bite their tongue and say “Yes dear” obviously.
and they should never ever ever wonder how to make themselves happy! *gasp* God forbid!
Yes, I can understand your way of thinking.
I think it’s a lack of faith and keeping God in the midst of marriage. I agree that people being selfish is a really big part of failing marriages. I think that no one really wants to do the actual “work” that it takes to make and keep a marriage strong. Other problems just start to develop…lack of:
Communication
Finances
Love
Too much:
Infidelity
Pride
You said it right. I think also that people have become bery lazy and like to take the easy way out. It is easier to quit then to work at something. It has become acceptable to walk awya for a marriage.
I think its all in our culture. Sociologists look at the escalating divorce rate because we are a society that brings you together, through school, college. And then a a society that tears you apart by many job hours. I think the “me” culture is evident, though I don’t think it’s just that
People are lazy, selfish, and no longer believe in “marriage”
People have become too self-centered. They think things will be better for them if they just move on rather than fix the problems they are already dealing with. The grass is never greener but some don’t believe it until they have experienced it themselves. By the time they figure it out they are either with someone worse or with no one at all and lonely as heck.
I totally agree with you . There is no trust or honesty, let alone commitment to one individual.
because people are getting more selfish now and don’t care about the kids. also, because people are getting more stupid and marrying whoever they like for 5 minutes
Because people don’t think about the responsibilities of marriage. And people get married to young and to soon before they actually know the other person..
It’s because, thanks to Disney, women all think their husbands owe them the perfect fairy tale life.
Simple. People no longer respect the sanctity of marriage…and you’re right. People are way too dang selfish nowadays.
because marriage sucks.
because marriage is not as sacred as it once was